Sunday, June 28, 2009

Through the Eyes of a Four-Year-Old











My four-year-old daughter and I were sitting down to play some online games together at pbskids.org when I roped her into a quick interview on what she thought was beautiful. She was game, so here's the result. (Her name is Sophia.)

Me: What do you think is beautiful? What's the most beautiful thing in the world?

Sophia: The Cinderella dress I have for my dolls. It is the most beautifulest.

M: What makes you happy?

S: When mommy plays with me.

M: Why does that make you happy?

S: Because she plays fun things with me.

M: What makes you sad?

S: Nothing!

M: What would be the best/funnest thing to do in your life?

S: To give mommy a flower.

M: Why would that be such a fun/good thing to do.

S: Because she loves me and I like giving her flowers.

M: What do you hope to be when you grow up?

S: A soccer ball player.

M: Why?

S: Because I'm so good at it.

M: Any other things you like about life or think are beautiful?

S: No ... Well Elisabeth is my best friend, but she lives in a different city than we do? [We just met Elisabeth last week during a week-long day school. Sadly she was only visiting.]

M: What made you think about her?

S: Because she's my best friend and I'm always thinking about her. [I should have asked her why!]

M: So that's all you have to say?

S: Yeah. Now can we play a game?

M. Yeah.

S: Can I show you the game I want?

M: Yeah.

S: I want to play a Caillou game.

For what it's worth!

Monday, June 22, 2009

Pride v Dignity









From the first pages of Scripture we see mankind as the apex of God's creation. Of no other being--even angels--does God say "they are made in My image." Like a masterpiece, God declares later that we were made for His glory! God made mankind so that when we were considered we would conclude that God was glorious. Nevertheless, throughout the remaining pages, we see the toxic effects of pride.

Pride is the chief source of sin in our lives, and God clearly hates it:

"I hate pride and arrogance."

"God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble."

So how can we reconcile what seems to be man's privileged standing of cosmic significance with the what seems to be an equally strong biblical inveigh against pride. Have we reason for pride or not? If not, what is the real significance of such towering statements about our standing. Do we take these with a grain of salt? Or do we whole-heartedly embrace them?

This paradox stems largely from our confusion of pride and dignity. Dignity is the holding high of one's head, without the looking down of one's nose. Dignity owes its force to what is inherent in one's being, without reference to another. Pride is the exaltation of one's self over another; even God. Pride can only be established at the expense of another. To recognize the power of one's innate dignity in no way detracts from the innate dignity of another. In fact it elevates it.

Dignity fuels and supports love and even humility. Pride is the ruin of them both. The gospel perfectly restores out dignity, while perfectly extinguishing our pride. Why would God send His Son to die for one who had no worth in His sight? This infuses us with a sense of personal awe stemming from God's words and actions. Why would He need to send His Son to die? This humbles and devastated our arrogance.

This power is seen throughout the pages of Victor Hugo's Les Miserables.

Jean Valjean is a hardened convict, having just completed 19 years of hard labor. When he enters the town, no inn keeper or family will give Him lodging. Even the jail keeper will not allow him to sleep in a cell. He is denied food and is cast out of one place after another, until he enters the home of the bishop Muriel. Immediately the bishop astounds him by referring to him as "monsieur" (basically calling him "sir").
"Every time he said this word monsieur, with his gently solemn, and heartily hospitable voice, the man's countenance lighted up. Monsieur to a convict, is a glass of water to a man dying of thirst at sea. Ignominy thirsts for respect."
As they continue the meal Jean Valjean demands of the bishop (mistakingly calling him Cure, for he thinks he is only a monk) an explanation:
"'Monsiere Cure,' said the man, 'you are good; you don't despise me. You take me into your house; you light your candles for me, and I hav'n't hid from you where I come from, and how miserable I am.'
The bishop, who was sitting near him, touched his hand gently and said, 'You need not tell me who you are. This is not my house; it is the house of Christ. It does not ask any comer whether he has a name, but whether he has an affliction. You are suffering; you are hungry and thirsty; be welcome. And do not thank me; do not tell me that I take you into my house. this is the home of no man, except him who needs an asylum. I tell you, who are a traveller, that you are more at home here than I; whatever is her is yours. What need have I to know your name? Besides, before you told me, I knew it.'
The man opened his eyes in astonishment:
'Really? You knew my name?'
'Yes,' answered the bishop, 'your name is my brother.'"
The healing and restorative effects of this encounter will eventually transform Valjean indelibly. They sit down to a grand meal, and the bishop has a habit of always serving guests on their finest settings.
"Suddenly the bishop said: 'It seems to me something is lacking on the table.'
The fact was, that Madame Magloire had set out only the three plates which were necessary. Now it was the custom of the house when the bishop had any one to supper, to set all size of the silver plates on the table, and innocent display. This graceful appearance of luxury was a sort of childlikeness which was full of charm in this gentle but austere household, which elevated poverty to dignity."
This act was deeply significant. The table was to be set to its fullest splendor, even though certain settings were entirely superfluous. The point had nothing to do with the function of eating, but the function of restoring dignity.

Earlier the bishop's manner of life was expressed thus:
"As we see, he had a strange and peculiar way of judging things. I suspect that he acquired it from the Gospel."
To be a Christian is to embrace our dignity and reject our pride. It is to fight and labor for the restored dignity of those we encounter as well. This is evangelism. This is discipleship. It is going to the Scripture and discovering the sense of deep dignity which alone can dispel arrogance and haughtiness; which alone can enable love and humility.

If we reject this dignity, thinking it to be pride, we will forfeit the very thing that God has most endowed us with and we will find ourselves forever struggling to find the strength or resolve or joy to be God's agents in this world. Jesus was a man deeply in touch with His dignity, and He was the only person in history who was without a shred of pride. He loved and served like no other, and, if we are to walk in His footsteps, we too must reckon with our staggering, God-ordained dignity.

Consider what Henri Houwen wrote:

"The Christian leader is called to help other affirm this great news, and to make visible in daily events the fact that behind the dirty curtain of our painful symptoms there is something great to be seen: the face of Him in whose image we are shaped."

Friday, June 5, 2009

Doubt and Dim Sum









I traveled through Hong Kong several years ago, and, as is my custom when traveling, sought to experience something quintessentially "Hong Kong." I was told to go for dim sum. 

Dim sum is an hors d'œuvre style meal served a la cart. Servers bring around assortments of food, and you sample them until you've had your fill. Ordering is progressive. 

None of us had ever had dim sum, so we asked the concierge where to find some. He told us of a hotel in Kawloon to visit. The next day we ventured out. Around lunch time we began looking for said hotel. It took us awhile and even when we did it wasn't easy to find the restaurant, which was on an upper floor. We arrived for the late-lunch ebb. Much of the dim sum was picked over and luke warm. When we ordered, we mostly each chose something that looked good and filled our plates. (Rather than sampling.) It was fine.

As we left I said, "That wasn't a very good lunch."

Later we began to plan for the following day. I piped up, "Well I'd like to do dim sum again tomorrow."

My companion looked oddly at me. "But you didn't like dim sum." 

"I know," I replied. "So I must not have got it right. There's no way everyone talks about dim sum if it isn't any better than that. I want to get it right this time."

Sadly I couldn't persuade my companions. I've never had dim sum since.

What does this have to do with anything?

Jesus is much like dim sum. He is talked about around the world. There are songs about Him written in all generations. Grand cathedrals stand in His honor. Nevertheless, many (most?) of His follower are experiencing only a hint of what He supposedly offers.

Consider the following promises:

"If anyone is thirsty, let him come to me and drink. Whoever believes in me, as the Scripture has said, streams of living water will flow from within him."

"Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls."

"I am the bread of life. He who comes to me will never go hungry, and he who believes in me will never be thirsty."

Utter satisfaction. Rest of soul. No hunger nor thirst. How many of Jesus' follower can say these are lived out in our lives? What say you? "Sort of?" "Sometimes?" "Rarely?" "No comment?"

This stark reality can give rise to painful doubts. "Is this even real?"

Why are we still following Him? 

In the midst of the final promise, where Jesus taught He was the bread of life, many, we're told, "turned back and no longer walked with him." Jesus asked the twelve, "Do you want to go away as well?"

Peter's response is insightful. "Lord, to whom shall we go. You have the words of eternal life."

What we see here is faith overcoming doubt. Not blind faith, but progressive faith; dynamic faith. The idea is not that Peter and the rest knew exactly what Jesus meant, nor that they were perfectly experiencing it. They knew enough, however. They had experienced enough. 

They knew and had experienced enough of both the world and Jesus to continue in their choice. The others evidently returned to their everyday life, "Let's stop wasting our time following this bozo." Peter knew no one else who was more worthy of pursuit.

Later Paul spoke in these terms: 

"But whatever was to my profit I now consider loss for the sake of Christ. What is more, I consider everything a loss compared to the surpassing greatness of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord, for whose sake I have lost all things. I consider them rubbish, that I may gain Christ and be found in him, not having a righteousness of my own that comes from the law, but that which is through faith in Christ—the righteousness that comes from God and is by faith. I want to know Christ and the power of his resurrection and the fellowship of sharing in his sufferings, becoming like him in his death, 11and so, somehow, to attain to the resurrection from the dead.

Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already been made perfect, but I press on..."

Our lives are an ongoing process of applying belief in the face of doubt. It is enduring disappointment and confusion by reminding ourselves of what we know.

The Psalmist writes:

"Why are you downcast, O my soul? 
       Why so disturbed within me? 
       Put your hope in God, 
       for I will yet praise him, 
       my Savior and my God. 
       My soul is downcast within me; 
       therefore I will remember you..."
Notice how he speaks to his soul, "Put your hope in God!" What else, "I will remember you." What else, "I will yet praise Him." Present, past, future. 

Be honest with the doubt in your life and also with Jesus' promises. It doesn't mean what you believe isn't true, only that you've yet to experience it in all of its fulness.

Consider C.S. Lewis's quote:

"Indeed, if we consider the unblushing promises of reward and the staggering nature of the rewards promised in the Gospels, it would seem that Our Lord finds our desires, not too strong, but too weak. We are half-hearted creatures, fooling about with drink and sex and ambition when infinite joy is offered us, like an ignorant child who wants to go on making mud pies in a slum because he cannot imagine what is meant by the offer of a holiday at the sea. We are far too easily pleased. "

Without such two-edged honesty, we'll be Christians making mud pies if we remain Christians at all. The alternatives are either: (1) There's nothing to it or (2) there must be more to it. A follower of Jesus is the one who concludes the latter--even in the midst of searching, real doubt. 

Remember Jude's counsel and "Be merciful with those who doubt," including yourself.

Some day I hope to return to Hong Kong. I will get dim sum right. 

Each day I will wake up I will seek the same of Jesus, never being satisfied with less than He allows. Doubts will serve to remind me primarily that I have only scratched the surface. 

Wednesday, June 3, 2009

Forgiving






These eyes weren't made for crying; This love wasn't made to waste 
These arms weren't made for battle, but to share in your embrace 

You shall be, you shall be, you shall be Forgiven 
You shall be, you shall be, you shall be Forgiven
Ben Harper
Forgiveness opens the door to restoration and beauty. It is a costly act; a costly decision. 

I'm struck by one facet of bearing this cost: forgiveness is a process.

Often we real and despair in the midst of forgiveness. Hurt surfaces stubbornly from sin we felt we had "forgiven." It is as though we push an apple beneath the surface of the water, but it bobs into sight the moment we cease exerting our pressure upon it. 

We say we've forgiven, but there's that damned apple floating for all the world to see. It surfaces in anger, fear, depression, gossip, anxiety and begs the question of ourselves and others, "So ... you've forgiven that offense?"

We find ourselves forced into a delusional denial of the apple's existence ("What apple?") or a dejected admission of our own insecurity. 

What if we saw forgiveness as what is really is, a brave, daily process to engage in? The presence of hurt doesn't mean forgiveness isn't working any more than the presence of hunger means that eating isn't working.

The fact is event-focused forgiveness never synchs with reality. Should we be allowed to acknowledge the presence of the bobbing apple by acknowledging that we are in the process of forgiving, it would be a truthful, dignified and freeing admission to make. It would also permit genuine forgiveness to run it's course. 

We have a decision: daily rebuild a facade of past-tense forgiveness in the face of it's obvious failure, or devote ourselves daily to the ongoing process of establishing real, lasting forgiveness. Here a foundation of acknowledged sin, there a deep sorrow over loss and hurt; now a sudden reminder of our heart's continued hesitancy, then an equally startling awareness of its increased freedom; finally a loving sense of wholeness and desire for restoration.

Yes Jesus commands us to forgive. This is no optional exercise. So seriously did he take it that he said: 
"But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins."
Wouldn't we do well to give up the sham of accomplishing this act, and to engage in the mortal daily battle of seeing it become a reality?

Jesus taught that we must "take up our cross daily" in order to follow and obey him. What better example of this than the daily dying to self that the process of forgiveness involves?

Tuesday, June 2, 2009

Scars



In the spirit of this blog, I'd like to share a searching piece by Amy Carmichael:

No Scar?
Hast thou no scar?
No hidden scar on foot, or side, or hand?
I hear thee sung as mighty in the land;
I hear them hail thy bright, ascendant star.
Hast thou no scar?

Hast thou no wound?
Yet I was wounded by the archers; spent,
Leaned Me against a tree to die; and rent
By ravening beasts that compassed Me, I swooned.
Hast thou no wound?

No wound? No scar?
Yet, as the Master shall the servant be,
And piercèd are the feet that follow Me.
But thine are whole; can he have followed far
Who hast no wound or scar?